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R. I. P. Patrick SwayzeRest In Peace Patrick Swayze It's sad.It's surreal: Michael Jackson & Farrah Fawcett passing away on the same day. It's sad.  DO YOU REALIZE... Do you realize it's only 100 days until Christmas ?    7 DAYS OF DISAPPOINTMENTOn Thursday my ex-husband informed me he would be coming, from Missouri, the next weekend to pick-up our granddaughter Alexis. OK, no problem. On Friday evening he notified me he would be leaving Saturday at 8AM- not a week from then... in 24 hrs !!! which meant I had to have her ready to go in 1 day !!! Plus I was getting to spend less time with her & eliminating all the stuff she & I had planned. It was chaos trying to get stuff together & to make matters worse she didn't want to leave. I kept re-iterating Popaw was coming to get her, she'd get to see Daddy & the other people who live in their house- finally she agreed when I reminded her she had presents for everyone... that made her happy. I agreed to meet my ex- in Lexington, VA, exit 55 on I-64... about 250 miles from VA Beach - saving him about 500 miles of driving. He was suppose to call Saturday night when he stopped at a motel so I'd know when to leave. However, he didn't call me or our son to say where he was staying. I waited for his call until 12:10 pm Sunday, but no call came so I left for Lexington. We got there at 4:37pm - NO EX-. We waited in the parking lot 'til 11:30pm when I finally decided we'd have to get a room... [there went $60- I didn't allot for]. Alexis & I got up at 8am (I fed her some grapes & OJ) then back to the meeting place where we waited 'til 11am then went to the Waffle House to eat and straight back to the meeting place. To make the day worse it was 100* outside & my car doesn't have A/C. At 1pm the kids & I started to think the worst. My EX- had an accident a month earlier & totaled his truck. My daughter called the State Troopers from MO to VA- NO LUCK- then she start coming from Richmond to I-64 west checking the highway shoulders, ditches & broken guard rails looking for her dad's red Ford pickup. I had my son go to his dad's house in MO & find out if anyone had heard from him. NO LUCK. I started from Lexington heading 64 west to West VA then turned around & started back to Lexington. I pulled over at a broken guard rail to check for his truck - a minute or so after getting out of the car a State Trooper pulled in behind me & issued a citation for impeding traffic & illegal parking on an interstate... $127.00 ticket All I could think of was "that A-hole better be in a hospital somewhere!" Now it's 5pm - 20 miles down the road my cell started working again- well the text messeges came through... It said "Dad's in Mo" ... my blood pressure shot up so high I was afraid I was going to have a heart attack or at least a stroke. By the time I got back to Lexington I was seething. My daughter wasn't there yet; she'd hit a thunderstorm. Spoke to my son -my EX- had turned around & gone back to Missouri Sunday at 4pm- 34 minutes before we arrived. HE STILL HAD NOT CALLED ANYONE !!! My son said his dad wanted me to call him- I told him I'd have to wait 'til my daughter got there because I didn't want Alexis to hear the language I would be using. She was already upset because she thought her popaw didn't want her to come home. 5 minutes later my EX- called me!!  SO,  I got out of the car & started the conversation... an exceptionally vocal obscene discussion. Apparently so loud people were pulling their kids back into the DQ... so loud my daughter could hear me at the bank across the highway from where I was parked. When I finally got to a place I could breath- I told him to give my son the money to get to E'ville, IN & I would meet him there... also he would have to pay our daughter back the money she would have to front me to get Alexis to E'ville.... I was still fuming & extremely loud.By this time my daughter had pulled up & was trying to keep Alexis calm. Alexis had never heard me raise my voice. Turns out my daughter had received 2 tickets on her way to Lexington. My assinine EX- had ruined a simple drive into 1 of the most expensive rides any of us had taken without a vacation. BAST**D!!!!!!!!! 9 HOURS later we met up with my son at E'ville's Flying J... I was still infuriated- not at my son but my EX. The trip back I was exhausted - I had 8 hrs sleep in 56 hours... I pulled into a rest area & sleep for 6 hours. Then I drove for another couple hundred miles, pulled into another rest area and slept for another 6 hours.  I will never speak to him again!!!
AH LIFE...The past couple years have been so frustrating & depressing I haven't been able to concentrate on today, let alone the years passing me by. I wish things were different ~ but not much has changed.
One foot in front of the other and try to move forward.
I had hopes of going camping (used to be my favorite way of recuperating & rejuvenating), but life's gotten in the way, so I guess I'll try again next year. :(
Any way... wish y'all the best. As always, Me Words to live by
I've been doing a little reading...very littleI've had a difficult time with concentration, during the past 6-8 months it's gotten worse- at times it makes reading almost impossible SO during my lucid moments I try to find inspiration in various pieces. I would like to share the following piece which I've found particularly helpful :
Keys to Success
Napolean Hill
"Clear your mind of any influence which does not support a positive, mental attitude."
"Learn to close the door of your mind on all failures from your past,"
Hill, who spent 25 years developing a philosophy of success, claimed that a positive, mental attitude is the single most important principle of success. The body is always eavesdropping on the mind. What we focus on expands; if we really believe we deserve the best, it will show up, but if we think we'll never afford anything better than a 1983 Volvo, we know what we'll be driving. If we harp on what we don't do, we become one of those people who run out of sick days long before we run out of the year. We can change our thoughts and our behaviour, and the number of sick days we have left. "One way to reprogram your self-talk is by repeating positive affirmations until you begin to get a good sense of what positive thinking really sounds like," wrote Judith E. Pearson in Healthy Habits. PASSING ON SUNDAY MORNING ADVICELife is worth living and sharing.
As we grow up, we learn that even the one person
that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will.
You will have your heart broken probably more than once
and it's harder every time.
You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken.
You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast,
and you'll eventually lose someone you love.
So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt
because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute
of happiness you'll never get back.
Don't be afraid that your life will end, Be afraid that it will never begin. Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art...
It has no survival value; rather is one of
those things that give value to survival. - C. S. Lewis Truly great madness cannot be achieved without significant intelligence. As always, Love, Mona THE COMPANY YOU KEEP"THE COMPANY YOU KEEP"
By ANONYMOUS It Is Better To Be Alone, Than In The Wrong Company. Tell me who your best friends are, and I will tell you who you are. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights. "A mirror reflects a man’s face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses." The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with whom you closely associate - for the good and the bad. The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people. As you grow, your associates will change. Some of your friends will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are. Friends that don't help you climb will want you to crawl. Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream. Those that don't increase you will eventually decrease you. Don't ask someone who's lost themselves to help you find your way - if they can't help themselves, they certainly can't help you. Don't spend time with people who do not contribute something of substance or value to your life, that means: don't waste your major time with minor people, life's far too short for that. Remember, nothing ever stays the same - in a year from now you will either be better off or worse off, your relationships will either be strengthened or weakened, you will either have progressed or regressed. Look to people who are humble/spiritual/charitable/joyous/friendly without any hidden agendas or motives, so that you can aspire to be like them and look to people who have less than what you have, so that you can be grateful. And remember, it's not the quantity of friends or acquaintances that you have that's important, it's the quality of your friendships that really matter - it's better to have a handful of unconditional, true-blue friends that will be there for you at the drop of a hat in the good times AND the bad, and who knows you inside out,than having many superficial, fair-weather friendships. Consider this: * Never receive counsel from unproductive people. * Never discuss your problems with someone incapable of contributing to the solution, because those who never succeed themselves are always first to tell you how. Not everyone has a right to speak into your life. You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person. * Don't follow anyone who's not going anywhere. With some people you spend an evening: with others you invest it. * Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life. * Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendships. Gez Louise-frickin computerWell it's been 2 weeks & I still don't have
this dang thing completely back running right.
I wish I could remember stuff ~ my brain is in
some weird time warp, occasionally I'm able to
remember all the technical stuff from my past &
then poof it's all gone. Unfortunately the info is gone
more often than it's here. I still haven't been able to
get my printer to work.
I thought the meds were suppose to relieve the
depression & anxiety but they're only partially
working and my memory is increasingly getting worse. OY VIEMy computer crashed last Saturday & I've been so frustrated I hadn't tried to reinstall everything 'til tonight. Anyway, I'm going to spend tomorrow reloading pictures & stuff...after that I'll start returning emails. Y'all take care. As always , Love, Mona My Irrational Mind Rambles on***************************************************************** Y’all wanted to know what’s going on with me: Here’s a synopsis - ***************************************************************** Self imposed isolation, detachment, seclusion, segregation, disconnection, lack of involvement, indifference, disinterest, unraveling, separation, introversion, dissociation, severance, apprehension, trepidation, hesitation, lack of enthusiasm, disentangle, melancholy, hopelessness, grief, pessimism, cynicism, glumness, despondency, irresponsible, absentminded, distracted, preoccupied, idiotic, careless, inattentive, forgetful, lack of concentration ***************************************************************** A [funeral] memorial service isn’t for the deceased: It’s for the living. My son touched 1000’s of lives but only a handful of devoted friends and family showed up for his memorial. If I told you it didn’t matter that you didn’t show up for his memorial I lied … I expected you no matter what else was going on… I would have been there for you because that’s what FAMILY & FRIENDS DO.
This was my baby you dismissed as an inconvenient trip in the New Year.
It’s been a long 7 months since Jeremy passed away. I’ve lost my direction and objective in life. There’s always been a purpose for my being, but now I can’t figure out why . ****************************************************************** Jeremy had been a vibrant personality. He was intelligent, receptive and sensitive to all those in his circle. I know in my heart he had stayed [possibly] passed his time. His 6’3” frame had gradually diminished to nothing - 70lbs at death. I hated seeing him like that knowing there was little we could do to comfort him; but, not wanting him to suffer we did every thing in our power to sustain him.****************************************************************** Jeremy’s 27th birthday would have been last Tuesday…. 27th …. By 27, I had 4 children & a stepson, a deceased husband who someone killed for recreation, plus a current (at the time) husband who had brain tumors removed & who didn’t remember us. By 27, I had spent so much time in & out of hospitals for my children’s and husbands’ diseases I could have taught nursing courses …I thought the worst was behind me. I was wrong. ***************************************************************** No … I don’t want to talk about it further. Yes … I’m still crying. This is why I try to post happy thoughts. Now that you’re sufficiently miserable … I’m going to take a pill & a nap. Life is short. Enjoy it! Life is short. Enjoy it! Some ways of dealing with the burdens of life :  * Always read stuff that will make you look good
if you die in the middle of it.  * If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.
 * It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve
as a warning to others.
  * Never buy a car you can't push. * Since it's the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.
 * The second mouse gets the cheese. * When everything's coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.
 * Birthdays are good for you. The more you have,
the longer you live.
 * You may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person. * Some mistakes are too much fun
to only make once.
 * A truly happy personis one who can
enjoy the scenery on a detour.
Have an awesome day and know that I thought about you today.
As always, Mona  The Master's TouchThe Master's Touch
Author Unknown It was battered and scarred and the auctioneer thought it scarcely worth his while to waste much time on the old violin, but he held it up with a smile. "What am I bid good folks?" he asked. "Who'll start the bidding for me?"
It was "a dollar... a dollar.... then two"... only two. "Two dollars and who'll make it three?" "Three dollars once - three dollars twice - and going for three" But no ... From the room far back, a gray-haired man came forward and picked up the bow.
Then wiping the dust from the old violin and tightening up all of its strings, He played a melody pure 'n sweet, as the sweet as the angels sing.
When the music stopped, the auctioneer in a voice that was quiet and low... Said: "What am I bid for the old violin?" And he held it up with the bow.
"A thousand dollars! Who'll make it two? Two thousand! and who'll make it three?" It was "three thousand once, three thousand twice" "Going and gone ! " said he. Most people cheered: But some of them cried; "We do not quite understand!"
"It was the Touch of the Master's Hand." "What changed it's worth?" Quietly came the reply,
Many a man with his life out of tune
Battered and scarred with sin Is auctioned cheap to the thoughtless crowd much like the Old Violin. A mess of pottage, a glass of wine, A game and He travels on. He's going once~ He's going twice~ He's going and almost gone. But, the Master comes, and the foolish crowd
never can quite understand the worth of a soul Or the change that's wrought By the touch of the Master's Hand. I'M NOT POOR!I used to think I was poor. JUST FOR TODAY LORDI will live through the next 12 hours and not try to tackle all of life's problems at once.
I will improve my mind. I will learn something useful. I will learn something that requires effort, thought, and concentration. I will be agreeable. I will look my best, speak in well-modulated voice, be courteous and considerate. I will not find fault with friend, relative or colleague. I will not try to change or improve anyone other than myself. I will have a program. I might not follow it exactly, but I will have it. I will save myself from two enemies, hurry and indecision. I will do a good turn and keep it secret. If anyone finds out, it won't count. I will do two things I don't want to do. Just for exercise. I will believe in myself. I will give my best to the world and feel confident that the world will give it's best to me. ~Author Unknown~
I REMEMBER READING THIS AT THANKSGIVING, A COUPLE YEARS AGO, IN A NEWSLETTER FROM: Saint Nicholas Parish Of Jersey City, Diocese of Newark, New Jersey . THANK GOODNESS I KEPT IT BECAUSE I NEEDED TO REMEMBER IT NOW. Aren't I too old to be this naive ?I kept hearing this one verse of a James Taylor's song when I started dating an old friend,
"I needed the shelter of someone’s arms, and there you were
I needed someone to understand my ups and downs, and there you were With sweet love and devotion Deeply touching my emotion..." A decent looking man in his early forties -
I was apprehensive at first: but,
We had much in common - friends, concerns, goals, hobbies
I thought what could it hurt
~ from now on when that phrase is uttered or thought~
"what could it hurt ?..." I will RUN the other way.
I helped him out by putting together a professional resume, researching his naval lifework leading to his getting a new & better job which has an exceptional pay base plus benefits.
I fronted him the money to get his bills in order so that would be able to concentrate on the tasks at hand
(money I couldn't afford-money earmarked for household utility bills):
Besides, as he reminded me daily ~ we are in love and will be together no matter what.
OK.. at least that's what his text messages said. I kept them on my phone so I'd always have a desirable incentive to keep making the road trip. I now keep them as a reminder of how vulnerable I can be by the simple indications of pretty WORDS.
[This paragragh is being deleted out of the kindness of my heart] & POOF ! ! !
ANY WAY ....
Maybe I'm the moron -
got up at 4am to pack his lunch, make him coffee, lent him money (while driving 240 miles round trip daily with $3.00 in change in my pocket) only to get home @7:45pm to him asking "What's for dinner ?" while he'd been off work at 2:30 & drinking beer with his friends from 3:30 til 15 minutes before I walked in the door, but I still made dinner.
Aren't I too old to be this naive ?
James Taylor I've got some lyrics for ya !
Now if you're thinking to yourself
 "I know a hog ridin, truck drivin redneck in need of a good woman"
 Please ~ lose my number ! ! ! ! !  ***Maybe if I had remembered Mark Twain's quote
I would've thought twice before putting my heart on the line:
If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous, he will not bite you;
that is the principal difference between a dog and a man. -Mark Twain Tears for loveLove, so tormenting... causing me to lose my directions
I've lavished my youth... just for you Love, so stirring... making me sink deep and deeper All the tears shed in front of you... for love and love alone Keep comforting myself that you're worth the wait And tears are just part of this process But never did I imagine your insincerity And when I want to turn back... it's too late Tears for love, time and again... endless waiting But never any sympathy for me Loving you has made me The loneliest person on earth... Tears for love, time and again... endless waiting Did you ever care for me ? Doesn't matter... I'm just shedding Tears for love. translated from a Chinese song w/ Thanks to Cybette Jeremy passed awayGeorge “Jeremy” Dice, 26, passed away at home ,in Mechanicsville, VA of heart failure after a lengthy illness on 12-21-2005. He graduated from the Governor’s School of the Arts in VA Beach & attended VCU . He was an artist & photographer. Jeremy leaves behind Mona Dice (mom), Jenny Dice (sister), Willie Willis (spouse), George & Darlene Dice (father & stepmother) of Clinton, MO His brothers - Stephan Rowland (of Clinton, MO), P. Kelly Rowland II (of Wilmington, NC) & their families: maternal grandmother Ellen Gambrell (of Hughesville, PA): uncles -Bill Gambrell (of VA Beach, VA), Curtis Gambrell (Dearborn, MI) & their families: aunts Bobbi Spink (Waterford, MI), Betty Sullivan (Dearborn, MI) & their families: plus an assortment of dear friends and family. A special thanks to Ginnie Morrow, Tina P. & everyone at Central VA Hospice. Special thanks to nursing aides - Alfreda Sneed & Antoinette Moore . Cremation and Burial Society of Virginia is handling the cremation. A wake will be held on Saturday January 7, 2006 Cards for the family may be mailed to : Dice, P.O. Box 11563, Richmond, VA 23230 BATHTUB TESTBATHTUB TEST
During a visit to the mental asylum, a visitor asked the Director what the criteria is that defines whether a patient should be institutionalized or not. "Well," said the Director, "we fill up a bathtub with water, then we offer a teaspoon, a teacup, and a bucket to the patient and ask the patient to empty the water out of the tub."
Okay, here's your test: 1. Would you use the spoon? 2. Would you use the teacup? 3. Would you use the bucket? "Oh, I understand," said the visitor. "A normal person would choose the bucket since it is larger than the teacup or spoon." (scroll down, please) \/ \/ \/ \/ \/ \/ "No," answered the Director. "A normal person would pull out the stopper."
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